Bible Discussion Thread

It is Bibleman72 ,my mother is not being kind to me .i have caregived for 8 years now.And she is very controlling and wont cooperate with me on her care.I told her to respect me and she refuses to .I told her that i was getting very upset with her and was going to call the state of Florida on her for caregiver abuse.She then said to call them tomorrow and she said give me back my credit card ,which i use to buy our food and medicine,I am not a paid caregiver nor do i have anyone to come and help me care for my mother.Which is why i am getting burned out.She refuses to hire anybody to help me.And i am burnt out and have physicakly things wrong with me that i need to see a physician about a long time ago.plesse pray my mother has a change of heart and will hire someone to come help us,i feel like the villian in this when all i really want is some help.

Dear Adam,hi i apologize for just now getting back to you.I appreciate your input my Brother.You are speaking truth.Truth can hurt.But that doesnt make it any less the truth.Right now my mom is in a nursing facility for rehab.So i am getting a much much neeeded respite break.I am not surprised that my mom ended up in the hospital again.She is not cooperative and makes things difficult.I love her but i dont buy the lie that she cannot afford to have respite care for me .If she had done what my doctor had suggested to me to tell her.She probably would not have had this problem.But she is very stubborn and does not have a teachable spirit.I can only hope the nursing facility can help her for now and i plan on attending Church this Sunday since i will be free to go now.thank you Brother Adam ,God bless and keep you always.

Hi Bibleman,

I prayed for you. I don't know if you're looking for input or not, so if not I guess you can choose to not read what I'm about to write. If it was me, I would interpret her abuse as her not wanting me there. Actions speak louder than words.

If I were in that situation I would choose to spending less and less time there and see if the attitude or respect level changes at all. If not, I would keep increasing the time I spend elsewhere until that reaches long periods of time. That doesn't make you any less of a caring son to take care of yourself first and escape a toxic environment. You should not feel guilt for stepping away from a bad situation that is hurting you. It may not be up to you to "fix" her. You said she refuses to hire others to help her. I hate to suggest this about your parent who you love, but have you considered the possibility that she is taking advantage of you. You described an abusive relationship and that she has the capability of hiring help, but doesn't. And when you help, she abuses you. Watch out for tricks designed to make you feel guilty and stay around. And more than anything PRAY and cast your burden to the Lord. God bless.