Want to connect with my husband's niece; never in her life until recently her mother wanting us to acknowledge her?! This young girl, women now; chose to be seduced by another older women with a child, they are together now several years; mock wedding I know we are to love all...no necessary to like how they live...but love none the less; need guidance on how to approach her; without condemnation; I want to send her my love to her by Jesus...who first loved me; I'm so humbled that his love is forever since I gave my life to him some time ago. I'm 72 yrs young this year and have a heart for others more so than I can explain in words...I'm convinced the Holy Spirit in me helps all the time. However, like Moses...I too can't seem to get out the right words at times when I become so emotional when speaking; anyway your advice on this matter would be greatly appreciated; her name is Alexandria goes by Alex; also pray for her and to bring Godly people into her life...to guide her from...her current life style; Thank you for your wonderful web site.
We need to understand that we can criticize someone without condemning them.
As I understand it, to "condemn" someone means to pronounce that they are lost and going to hell.
But if someone says to you, "I think you're wrong on this issue," They have not condemned you.
We live in a culture where criticism is not popular. If you criticize anyone, you're labeled judgmental, hypocritical, and pharisaical.
In the Christian community we need to be criticized or corrected, "when we are doing something wrong, when we are neglecting some good thing we should be doing. when we are teaching something that is false. ect ect..
Scripture should always be the standard by which we criticize/reprove and make sure you are the right person to do the criticizing.
When We Criticize, We Need to do it with Love and probably in person, "Not a letter"
As it pertains to "condemning," there is certainly a time when we should express to people that they are in a lost condition. If someone is not "in Christ,"
The bible certainly can be used in this area!
There is lots of Scripture on the behavior of a true believer.
" Romans 6:1-4 comes to mind.
We have to tell them the truth!
He that rebuketh a man afterwards shall find more favour than he that flattereth with the tongue. Proverbs 28:23).
I would rather display my love by telling them the truth and risk losing them as a friend than to tell them nothing and risk seeing them continue in a Sin that can send them to Hell.
Perhaps you can ease them into a conversation on Salvation and ask them are they saved, and their answer will give you a starting point.
Don't forget to ask them, "By what means"
PS. A unsaved person needs to know the work of Christ on the cross.
A saved person, "or one that profess to be saved needs to understand the work of the Holyspirit.
We need to understand that we can criticize someone without condemning them.
As I understand it, to "condemn" someone means to pronounce that they are lost and going to hell.
But if someone says to you, "I think you're wrong on this issue," They have not condemned you.
We live in a culture where criticism is not popular. If you criticize anyone, you're labeled judgmental, hypocritical, and pharisaical.
In the Christian community we need to be criticized or corrected, "when we are doing something wrong, when we are neglecting some good thing we should be doing. when we are teaching something that is false. ect ect..
Scripture should always be the standard by which we criticize/reprove and make sure you are the right person to do the criticizing.
When We Criticize, We Need to do it with Love and probably in person, "Not a letter"
As it pertains to "condemning," there is certainly a time when we should express to people that they are in a lost condition. If someone is not "in Christ,"
The bible certainly can be used in this area!
There is lots of Scripture on the behavior of a true believer.
" Romans 6:1-4 comes to mind.
We have to tell them the truth!
He that rebuketh a man afterwards shall find more favour than he that flattereth with the tongue. Proverbs 28:23).
I would rather display my love by telling them the truth and risk losing them as a friend than to tell them nothing and risk seeing them continue in a Sin that can send them to Hell.
Perhaps you can ease them into a conversation on Salvation and ask them are they saved, and their answer will give you a starting point.
Don't forget to ask them, "By what means"
PS. A unsaved person needs to know the work of Christ on the cross.
A saved person, "or one that profess to be saved needs to understand the work of the Holyspirit.
Good luck and God bless.
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